Perspective: is determined by ones breadth of experience and the assimilation of the lessons attached with ones experiences into ones overall world view. All of the experience in the world is of little value, if it is not truly experinced through ones deliberate awareness, both sensually during experinces and upon vulnerable reflection after ones experiences.
The broader ones perspective, the better ones ability to understand themselves, understand others, the better ones ability to discern deeper and interrelated meanings, the more aware one is and the more courage one acheives to reach forward in life.
Ones tendency to be risk averse and to rely upon their protective egocentric defenses vs. Ones tendency to push through their limitations in favor of growth and the confidence that it brings them, is initially largely influenced by the person who relates the world to the individual from birth.
Like a peripheral ego, knowledge base, belief system and personality, the primary care giver has nearly unrestricted access to and influence on the developing psyche of their small child.
Obviously a child with no psychic defense mechanisms, and a severely restricted perspective, is going to assume much of the belief system of the person that relates the world to them.
The primary care givers ability to accurately relate the world to the child, is largely determinative of the child’s view of their self, their world and their relation to their world.
If a child is shown that the world accepts them for who they are and their care giver(s) provide them with a healthy tether to explore that world in a naturally creative and curious fashion, the child will be gifted with a tendency to internalize their feelings and locus of control, as experiential learning is the only path to learning, knowledge accumulation and self-confidence.
If a child is shown a world that is not to be trusted, scary or otherwise perceived as something to be fearful of, the child will internalize those beliefs and assume a protective fear-based egocentric posture. The authentic-self is internalized, but sacrificed at the feet of an unconsciously created composite of what the child believes their external environment will accept from them, a false-self.
While our personality and our psyche construct, are relatively set around the age of 5, we always possess the ability to modify our mindset and therefore our personal expression, though if our posture is a protective one fueled by fear that we are not aware of, subsequent modifications are much more difficult and require very significant emotional events to eclipse the power of the fear that controls an individual.
Childhood is fraught with painful experiences, especially for those with self-protective leanings that require ones experiences to be presented to them within an ever narrowing range, as the accumulation of discordant experiences hems in their subsequent breadth of expression.
When one reaches adolescence with an egocentric mindset, it is imparitive that they feel accepted by others, or the negative effects upon their self-esteem can be disastrous. Even to a more internally driven teen, the challenges of puberty, social acceptance and their newly acquired want of the opposite sex, is perhaps the most challenging time in life.
Carl Jung coined the term Self-Sacrifice to describe the significance of the trial that teens face as they successfully transcend from being the children of their parents to being themselves. This first major step into adulthood and personal responsibility and accountability, sets the tone for the rest of an individual’s life. Do they come to rely upon and trust themselves, or do they continue to psychically graft off of their parents or a new parental-surrogate(s).
The more self-protective and egocentric the individual, the more likely they will continue to psychically draft off whomever they percieve to be their salvation, in the form of a mate and other more competent authority figures as they percieve themselves as less than capable. They necessarily defer and project much of their personal responsibility, away from themselves and onto others, as a way to cope and maintain their focus on the external from where they feel they can procure their needs.
When one has acclimated to the habitual use of their psychic defenses, even though they often possess an anemic internal psychospiritual life, there is no reason whatsoever to change their posture. This all manifests as a self-limited perspective of the world, and as learning, reaching and risk all infer change and the unknown, the majority of their internal angst is defused through distracting pleasurable and comfort enhancing activities, that are not growth enhancing or challenging.
To compensate for their obvious lack of perspective and stasis, these individuals will seek out others in the form of a mate, friends, associates or employment that allows them to draft off of an external source of ethos and validation. These individuals are content to focus on more external, surperfluous and perfunctory tasks, while vicariously living through those who they feel possess more courage and ability to face the truly challenging adult responsibilities.
Fear hems humans in, yet the only release from its clutches is to go through the very pain that is preventing us from fully expressing who we really are. Pain, in all its forms, is reviled by our culture and escaping the pain (that gives life and is our salvation), is the job of the false-self and those that are attracted to false-selfs.