We are born with no white matter, or set circuitry in our cerebrum. We are born with no preset construct of how to relate to ourselves or to our environment.
We are prewired with an angst to experientially learn through a natural curiosity and a willingness to risk and reach.
We learn when we attach feeling and sensory input to experiences. The more the sensual input and the more emotion we attach to experience the more it is imprinted into our brain circuitry and the more emotional significance it has to us. (Especially when we are young because we need to lay down the blank circuitry and we are in hyper-building mode).
We may not be aware why similar subsequent experiences elicit certain emotions and behaviors, but there is always a reason.
In the future to overcome this learned behavior and the feelings attached to it, we must discern what it is and why, and then replace it with a more emotionally charged experience. This can be done consciously or unconsciously, both from a learning and relearning point of view.
If those who care for us, while our circuitry is being wired in earnest (until about age 5), relate to us a scary or dangerous environment, we will tend to attach fear to real and imagined future experiences.
If a child falls and their mother responds histrionically, the child will take on her overreaction and attach it to the experience. If the mother, or caretaker, relates “accidents” in a healthier intentional way, the child will be more likely to maintain their natural curiosity and begin to intentionally create from a deliberately aware posture going forward, not from a fear based avoidance posture.
As adults, to overcome the fears and discordant feelings we have, we tend to employ reason and logic and techniques to manage our discontent. This is not effective at rewiring the cause that is hardwired in our brains, and can only be effective to the extent we become skilled practitioners at the specific techniques we use to manage ourselves.
We must replace more emotionally charged new learning to the site of the discordant belief and feelings attached with it.
Because our culture does not truly value internal integration, little time is spent reinforcing this truism, and the vast majority of our energetic efforts our spent managing our hectic lives with work, kids, bills and all of the challenges we face daily.
Without a creative outlet, and a deliberately open posture towards unearthing what it is that is causing us to merely cope in life, we will require techniques and other unhealthy venting strategies to cope in our lives.
Only you can set you free, Lexapro, Cymbalta, and Wellbutrin can ease the pain a bit, buts it’s still there waiting for you to let it go.
I wrote this on my iPhone going home for lunch today. I know I’m a bad boy for doing so, but I do some of my best writing when I’m driving! Haha
This little ditty was conceived in 15 minutes from my past study of neuroanatomy, neurobiological learning, pharmacology, psychology, psychodynamics, childhood development, Baruch Spinoza philosophy, Immanuel Kant philosophy, Goethe, John Locke philosophy, Carl Jung, my experiences, etc..
Some of my greatest blessings have been the extremely emotional experiences I’ve had in the past few years and the unearthing and replacing of some fundamental misguided beliefs with more empowering ones. Our tendency to escape the connecting of new emotional lessons to old misconceptions holds us back! Vulnerability is the key to exposing the true weakness of the fear that barks so loud at us. God knows it has me for so long!