The Ego Encounter: The Game

Principle #1: the egoist must win the encounter, or at least think that they have, lest the control that the false-self possesses over its host be lessened. (Exorcism: like many scary ideas, is but a metaphor for the all too common ego encounter)

Principle #2: the false-self has provided the egoist with the perception of success and comfort for the bulk of the egoists life, do not fool yourself into believing that by engaging an ego with logic, reason or especially a heartfelt truth will sway them from their aim. The more wrong or guilty the egoist, the bigger ones challenge when encountering them.

Principle #3: when encountering a person who predominantly functions with a pretentious false-self, if a hint of any error on their part is brought to light, they will often send you a signal to back off. It’s usually best to heed their warning, as one is advised not to press on or engage the egoist unless one is prepared to maintain their internal focus and the stakes are high enough.

Principle #4: some egos love to constantly point out the errors of others, but most lie in wait often with a smiling face and even a polite disposition, though that pretension does vanish the nanosecond their restrictive walls sense the faintest possibility of an assault.

Principle #5: one must remember that an egoist abhors any knowledge that would undermine their defenses. The last thing they want is to know anything that might open their mind to other possibilities than what they relied upon so heavily to exist.

Principle #6: displaying emotion, though it’s the very thing that fuels all human behavior and the very thing that keeps the false-self in business, is against their rules, and is considered a disqualification from the egoists vantage. The appearance of keeping oneself in check and appropriately rational is requisite in the eyes of the pretentious.

The Egoist Tool Kit: as the encounter heats up this is the general order of an ego defense strategy. Reason is a Cardinal Precept in the practice of egoism, to be unreasonable is to not possess an ego at all, and that will never do!

Responsibility Shifting: the egoist will offer up an excuse, blame something or someone other than themselves, or suggest an ill-conceived alternative explanation, etc..

Reasoning: the egoist will choose from one of several scripts that they have accumulated over the years that have been effective at throwing others off their scent. These incantations are always presented employing reason and logic, though the strength of their reasoning is usually quite weak as the egoist is forced to adopt their often cliche and water-downed rhetoric from any number of canned ideologies that they align with when it suits their needs.

Attack: when the egoist thinks that their defenses are failing them, even the once smiling curteous unassuming person, will attack with varying levels of anger depending on the severity of the perceived breach and their perceived skill as an attacker. Projections, accusations and whatever they require to wound their percieved attacker may be employed. A physical attack may also ensue.

Crescendo: if all else fails the egoist will now throw their “kitchen sink” in the ring. Legalism takes over as they employ their most effective assumed ideological nuclear device. This may include a laundry list of rules, laws, conventions, some quotes of scripture, or threats of retaliation.

Retreat: they will disengage shaking their head, cursing you, letting you know every fault you have or every sin that you have committed against them, etc.

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