“Look around us, we’re all liars here, and everyone of us is better than you.”
–Lord Baelish, a sociopath himself, speaking to the innocent and tender hearted Sansa Stark, after she was released from her vows to the psychopathic King Geoffrey.
We all see what we believe to be true.
Some play the game to win. Some play to survive. Some play to help the intention behind it all be realized.
The right vows hem in our passions that would otherwise derail us. Arbitrary rules derail us without us knowing.