Category Archives: Child development

What Neurosis Really Is

Neurosis, is the result of the replacement of ones own naturally developing psychic relationship between themselves and others with a “culturally socialized” one; the shock of which instills in the individual internal psychic imbalances that manifest as forceful unconscious proclivities, motivations and behaviors (strategies for wish fulfillment unconsciously inspired to rebalance and relax the psyche). 

The ego, then, is merely the sum total of anxiety reducing defense mechanisms that automatically develop in order to energetically stabilize ones psyche from any external threats to ones conformed identity. 

As we all must garner psychic energy (power through ego validation) from interacting with others socially, the importance of gaining for oneself sufficient power to motor ones day-to-day actions successfully in social intercourse, is vital.

Once such imbalances are brought into equilibrium (as opposed to unchecked ego anxiety control attempts) through the experiences associated with clarifying ones own attentional perspective, allowing for the reemergence of ones own intuitive pattern recognition system and the revelations that stem from perceiving experiential structure and their relationships naturally (pre-socialized), the related neuroses and their unconsciously powered motivations, subside.

The Myth of Choice

The trap of all human decision making; either one has fostered an attitude of an engaged and aware pragmatism gifting their view with sufficient perspective to provide an applicable context which can then contribute to mutually beneficial decision making; or one allows themselves to be pinned down ideologically binding their view from the form, structure and relations of the salient points that must be considered in order to discern and formulate the best choices from the noise and clatter that today inundates us all. 

Unfortunately the latter attitude reigns supreme and without question today.

Growth ala Ernest Becker

“We can understand, then, that growth, the getting over ones implanted formative neurosis, is not a matter of simple reflection about his early family life, or even bringing to consciousness some of the most distasteful events of his childhood, or least of all a hard, rational scrutiny of ones motives.

It is, as the Stoics and Shakespeare have already taught us, is the going through hell of a lonely and racking rebirth where one throws off the lendings of culture, the costumes that fit us for life‚Äôs roles, the masks and panoplies of our standardized heroisms, to stand alone and nude facing the howling elements as oneself-a trembling animal element.”

-Ernest Becker

We have Trump because we are Trump

The egos need “to be right over others”, despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary (egos repel an open and dynamic contextual awareness and understanding in favor of the polarizing emotions that are embedded in adopted and conforming ideologies), is the major stumbling block to all human social problems and is best illustrated by our increasing inundation of “ego based” Reality TV Shows and most “perfectly” actualized in the ineffectual rantings of the perfectionism (a most common trap of the ego) of “The Donald”!

As a result of the effects on we humans by our social conformity, identity culture and an ever emerging inability to respond with a sufficient level of understanding, we no longer understand the basic form, function and relations of things within or without, and have unwittingly sacrificed our ability to discern intuitively in the moment (naturally pragmatic) for the barrenness of ideological judgment, group think, addiction, distraction, unawareness and routine. 

Socially accepted generalizations and effortless “participation trophy” thinking, intended to make everyone artificially feel powerful, has propelled us into the perfect place for Artificial Intelligence, and other “convenience technologies” to take over our thinking and life management for us. 

We have Trump because we are Trump