To understand anything new one must actively seek to learn from differing perspectives and assimilate new learnings into ones overall worldview.
This is not easy for most of us because it feels so good to be validated for older less nuanced ways of thinking.
Most stick with the feeling of being right and the validation it brings them from their crowd.
It’s much easier to shout others down and high five those around us than to do the difficult work of seeing the world closer and closer to the reality that actually exists, although this is the only way to understand people and the beginning of solving real world problems.
Absent the work there is no learning, no progress, and no path forward only a buttressing of our ego.
“It is human nature to conflate our personal successes with our personal greatness, when in fact much of our success is in large part due to the societal timing of things and those who support us.”
A revelation I’ve heard recently from the comedic genius Jerry Seinfeld lately, the baby boomers were the first generation that grew up with an actually protected childhood. Since then we’ve all become a tad more enfeebled until we’ve inadvertently birthed our most enfeebled generation, the millennials and the snowflakes that they’ve they produced. It’s kinda hard to imagine these types to be adaptable to valuable culture.
Neurosis, is the result of the replacement of ones own naturally developing psychic relationship between themselves and others with a “culturally socialized” one; the shock of which instills in the individual internal psychic imbalances that manifest as forceful unconscious proclivities, motivations and behaviors (strategies for wish fulfillment unconsciously inspired to rebalance and relax the psyche).
The ego, then, is merely the sum total of anxiety reducing defense mechanisms that automatically develop in order to energetically stabilize ones psyche from any external threats to ones conformed identity.
As we all must garner psychic energy (power through ego validation) from interacting with others socially, the importance of gaining for oneself sufficient power to motor ones day-to-day actions successfully in social intercourse, is vital.
Once such imbalances are brought into equilibrium (as opposed to unchecked ego anxiety control attempts) through the experiences associated with clarifying ones own attentional perspective, allowing for the reemergence of ones own intuitive pattern recognition system and the revelations that stem from perceiving experiential structure and their relationships naturally (pre-socialized), the related neuroses and their unconsciously powered motivations, subside.